Saturday, December 16, 2017

Just Say "No" - Is It Said Enough?

To my friends who were looking forward to the "Great American Baking Show" as much as I was, we were doomed for disappointment. I turned it on at 8:00 pm on Thursday, only to find the "Great Christmas Light Fight" on instead. The different places we check for listings on commercial TV all agreed that we should have been seeing bakers make macaroons and gingerbread houses, not watching idiots string so many lights onto their homes that they were in danger of causing a black-out for their cities. I sent off a rather angry email to my local station and they responded with the whys and wherefores early the next day. *sigh* yet another case of inappropriate behavior. The response was: 

"The Great American Baking Show" was pulled by ABC. ... (the network statement follows)  "In light of allegations that recently came to our attention, ABC has ended its relationship with Johnny Iuzzini and will not be airing the remainder of "The Great American Baking Show" episodes. ABC takes matters such as those described in the allegations very seriously and has come to the conclusion that they violate our standards of conduct. This season's winner will be announced at a later date. ..." 




Johnny Iuzzini made his own problems this time. The
initial accusations of four women were followed up by
accusations from another four, and after investigation,
ABC cancelled the "Great American Baking Show"
airing, effective immediately. 



So, once again charges of sexual harassment have raised their heads, causing reactions that changed the lives of many in a broad and sweeping stroke. I'm far from disagreeing with this trend. It does seem, however, that every piece of woodwork currently features a sexual harassment accusation. I'm at the point of supporting these women, yet wondering if all claims are legitimate. These particular claims do appear to have teeth - more than eight women over the span of almost a decade in various restaurants. But other accusations made against other people may not be as strong. 




Every industry has sexual harassment charges, but those people working
in the entertainment industry are certainly feeling the negative press and
immediate publicity. Want to know about this wall of people?
Follow the link. 



Over the past three months or so, when cries of "sexual harassment" have been heard almost daily, rock bands have lost their record labels, managers and tour dates. Movie stars have been escorted off sound stages and written out of productions. Entertainment personnel, from the small blips to the great and mighty have fallen under microscopic scrutiny. This is, in the main, a very good thing. 




Women are speaking out about inappropriate behavior. That's
a great thing! It's never easy to face bad experiences
and crack them open again. 



I think back on my youth and I was stupid, and in cases very lucky. My issues with sexuality were when I was very young, not when I was actually old enough for sexual activity, raging hormones, and stupid decisions. I recall at least three separate occasions while in college when I left the home or apartment of someone, saving me from what could easily have been a situation of rape. I recall saying "No" at some really important times, or walking home alone in the cold and snow rather than stay with someone. I was no nun, but I still had some common sense. 




Are we teaching our kids to understand the power
of "No"? Are we teaching them to walk away
or phone a cab or stay with friends? Are we
teaching them safe behavior? We can't lock them
up in a castle tower until their Prince comes
looking for them. 



Are we training our children to be sexually intelligent? Will they say "No" at appropriate times and leave uncertain situations behind them? Will they understand that others can and sometimes will take advantage of them? I don't think this is covered in basic sex-ed classes, and doubt that a lot of parents will take the courageous step of telling their kids about sexual predators among their peers and employers. Maybe they should just grit their teeth and add it to their "birds and bees" and their "don't talk to strangers" discussions. 

On that note, have a wonderful weekend. I'll be on my way to the pool soon, but will have to shovel away the snow that fell overnight first. *sigh* Nothing like adding another 30 minutes of work into my early morning. Oh well, nothing to be done. Snow comes with living in the Frozen Northlands. 




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