It's Mother's Day - I'm Childless By Choice

Hi everyone and Happy Saturday. Tomorrow is Mother's Day, and it also happens to be my birthday. I've never been fond of the date of my birth because it always intersects with Mother's Day celebrations and activities. It doesn't always fall on the exact holiday, of course, but it's always close enough that flowers are twice as expensive and meals are focused on the greater holiday. *sigh* I might be used to it, but I don't have to like it. 

Happy Mother's Day to all of my friends who are 
mothers out there in cyberspace. Enjoy your 
day of celebration - it's well deserved. 

Last year DH took me out to brunch at a local steakhouse that I enjoy, and the food was actually quite good. But we had to sit in the bar area because we were only two people, even though I had made the reservations in advance, and there wasn't any acknowledgement that it was a birthday celebration because the world (in the USA) was busy celebrating Mother's Day on that date. *sigh* Like I said, I might be used to it but I don't have to like it. 

I never wanted children. I found nothing fascinating 
in the antics of children - young or older - that was 
enough to convince me to have kids. 

Some people are childless by choice and that was always my choice. I knew from the time I was quite young that I really didn't want children. I was up front about that with every boyfriend I had over the years, and I've never changed my mind. I don't have the memories that you, as mothers, have, and I don't regret my decision at all and never have. I don't think I would have made a very good mother. I'm too self-centered and when I get into a project, I'm too directed and focused to split my time with other smaller beings. I recognized my limitations very early in my life and made my decision. I've never regretted it. 

My Mom and Dad were fine with my 
choice to be childless. Mom really wanted 
a kid, so she hunted the world over and 
finally found me. I was very lucky and had 
great parents. But I also always knew that 
kids were NOT in my own future. 

When I met DH, I told him about my decision to be childless, and he said his sister had three kids (later to grow to a family of eight kids) and he didn't feel the need to have any kids either. Seth, my previous top guy (and still good friend) was also just fine with it. He has his lovely wife, his horses and his dogs and cats, and he's content. I know that most of you, my friends and readers out there, have kids and adore them (most of the time) and occasionally tear your hair out because of something stupid that they did. That's the job of a mother - to be supportive, but also to be able to view things with a critical eye when necessary. The best mothers can do both at the same time. 

If you don't want children, you shouldn't have 
to have any. If you do want them, by all means 
have them by any way open to you. You'll be 
a great Mom or Dad and you'll enjoy your family. 

For those of you with children - young or old, I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day tomorrow and that you get acknowledged and celebrated for more than a single day in the year. Motherhood is a hard but very rewarding job, and it deserves accolades and gifts much more often than a single day in May. Have a great weekend and I'll be back on Monday. Slava Ukraini.